A week ago Friday, I had the opportunity to go to the new Disney Pixar movie, “Brave.” I took my three year old who has been dying to go. She loves Tangled an Snow White. Her favorite princess is Belle. So here we stand in long lines to see this story about a princess who wants to change her destiny.
The story line was not what I expected.
What I did expect: Merida wants to change her fate so that she does not have to submit to an arranged marriage. She wants adventure and finds her homeland to be the place for it. The mentions of will o’ the wisps did not throw me. Those wives tales fit the time period nature of the movie.
What I didn’t expect: the extent of the mother/daughter drama or the visit to the witch.
With all that said, I want to focus on a few positives that I found in the movie.
First, I found the nature of watching a little girl become a young woman a little hard to watch. My daughter sat on my lap most of the time. She bawled through the time when Merida and her mom fought. She fought through tears to watch the reconciliation develop as they learned to appreciated each other. Healthy lessons exist for both sides of the parental equation. First, little girls need to grow and learn how to move from obeying their mom and dad to honoring them. Second, parents have to experience and grieve the loss of the little girl they knew and celebrate the beauty of the young woman who emerges from the cocoon of their home.
Second, the concept of the sacred center struck me. The film seemed to return to a stone henge type place. It served the story by being a place where action, dialogue and even reconciliation could occur. From epic battles with bears to directions from the will o’ the wisps, we see this centralized place as a modern safe zone. Everything seems to work out when you walk into the center of the circle. I watched all this happened and wondered what our society might be like if our families served as a sacred center for the people in them. I wish we could make this more the norm than the exception. Sacred means set apart. When our families serve as the sacred center they bring us back to God. They center us back to God.
I recognize Brave has issues. The PG rating should have told us that fact. However, it can create conversations and grow your family it you will bring the Parental Guidance.